LIE PRETTY.

LAY PRETTY?

What is being done and to whom?

But let's go with LIE PRETTY instead of LAY PRETTY, because I like the word lie better than lay. I also like how one can also lie to someone else. And maybe even lie to yourself.

To lie pretty is a concept that I've finally seen myself do. Or rather outwardly tell another person what I was doing. I've LIE(d) PRETTY myself and most recently last night. I'm sure most girls have. Perhaps even some boys. It is the motion of laying down next to someone, but in such a way that you appear attractive to the person you laying down next to. Your body holds tension and your face doesn't look go of "the look." Sometimes even known as "the eye." It is lying pretty, for sure.

I lie pretty by messing with my curls. In my opinion, when a person has curls and they are trying to lay down, they just do not look sexy. Curly hair unless whirling in free air just doesn't look nice when smashed against a flat surface. They poof out and if they are out of place it is really noticeable. But this might just be me. But I'm sure it's not.

So what we do-- what I do is hold myself up a bit. I may be tired and uncomfortable to the back of my neck, but I won't drop down. It could even be a tilt of the head. The shrug of a shoulder. I know I've done it with just about every boy I've laid next to. And it's funny. Why do we do this?! Why do I do this?! Who do I do it for?!

The simple thing of looking attractive, desirable, sexy while in the intimate space of a bed. The desire to be touched and wanted by another. We cock our heads and bury our faces deeper in the wrinkles because we don't like people looking up our noses or in our ears. We don't want them to get to close to see that we haven't tweezed our eyebrows or that there might be bubbling acne on our foreheads. These 'things' that are called flaws can't always be helped. That's why I'm sure just like me every girl has excused herself from whatever is happening in bed to go to the bathroom and check their faces. Fix a problem or adjust the hair curls and turn off the lights and back under the covers. Now, let's give the people we are with some credit in knowing that they are the only ones staring at your face and they might notice that you popped that pimple or that you got that booger. Good for you, really! I do it myself and I know it is because I want to feel attractive and desirable.

But maybe we already are. Maybe we have the stuff. Maybe doing those small things help. But I suppose when the light is on the rules change, but in the dead of night we fix-- I fix these things. I guess I assume that my partner has night vision goggles! We are beautiful already. Light on or off. That person should enjoy the feelings they have with you while being so close. The lick of the lips, the flutter of the eyelashes, the gaze into your own, the socks kicked off and the ever so god damn best sensation in the world of having someones finger tips glide across your hip-- those are what matter. Those feelings and gestures, I feel, make you desirable, sexy, wanted, and attractive.

I guess I could have articulated this topic better, but all I really want for you, my readers, is to stop lying to yourself. Relax and breathe in the bed sheets, they might reek, but they can be washed another time. But those moments cannot be repeated another time. So. . .

Stay pretty, but don't lie pretty.

-Sonja


Reclaim your beauty in bed!